Breastfeeding: Option or Baby's birthright?

I am a lactivist, but I have not always been.

Once upon a time, my child was tiny. When he came home from the NICU, he was tipping the scales at 4 pounds, 5 ounces. As we were getting ready to leave the hospital, our discharge nurse came in and asked if I planned to exclusively breastfeed Spencer. When I told her yes, she shoved a can of high calorie formula in my hand and said, "We never recommend that a preemie be exclusively breastfed." She proceeded to tell me that I had to take Spence to his pediatrician by the end of the week and if he didn't gain weight he'd be readmitted to the hospital.

Needless to say, it scared me to death. I became obsessive about getting extra calories in him and pretty much only used bottles with expressed breastmilk and formula mixed in them. Around the same time, I caught a cold and my doctor, who knew I was pumping for a preemie, told me to take Sudafed. My milk supply tanked and eventually dried up.

At the time, I didn't go to great lengths to keep or increase my supply. I had a very "formula is just as good" attitude.

Then I started researching and learned how bad formula can be for kids. Don't get me wrong, I don't think its poison or anything, but it has been linked to increased rates of childhood and adolescent obesity, increased asthma and other respitory illnesses, and even SIDS. My own child started getting ill and had excema pop up all over his upper body when we made the switch from 1/2 formula, 1/2 breastmilk to all formula.

Why would anyone think those risks are ok for thier child?

On my way home tonight, I started thinking about how I think its borderline child abuse to deny your child the right to be breastfed just because you don't like it or find it difficult. Welcome to motherhood, where you have to make sacrifices for your child! No one ever said that being a mom would be easy, and here's a prime example. There are a very limited number of people who physically cannot nurse, around 1-3%, and I understand and sympathize with these women. Still, there's no reason that the rate of breastfeeding in the US at the age of 6 months is under 50%. No excuses!

We as Americans have not put the correct connotation on formula usage. The norm is breastfeeding and anything else is substandard, period. Should I ever, for some reason, not be able to produce breastmilk, I won't turn first to formula. I will solict lactating women whom I know and ask them for donations of breastmilk.

I don't want MY child to eat something substandard.